That time of year is once again upon us. That special time where we all set the best of intentions for the coming year. As 2015 comes to a close, I find myself in Playa Del Carmen, Mexico taking a little timeout to relax and reflect.
Having just come out of my second Date with Destiny, my head is still spinning. The decisions I’ve made, the people I’ve met, the people I’m cutting out, the man that I am destined to become. In fact, for the first time in my life, I actually have a mission statement for my life. Well more like a purpose statement? Curious? Here it is:
“The purpose of my life is to BE in a beautiful state and DO God’s healing for myself and others.”
Ok granted, the format may not be all that exciting. It is right out of the Date with Destiny manual, after all. And what is this “beautiful state”? Is it Florida? Colorado? Vermont? It’s none of the above. It’s the way that I choose to start showing up in the world. God’s healing? Just who do I think I am? Well, I believe that my life is guided by God and that I am meant to heal. Heal as in trade in my career in tech and finance for a career in medicine. That means back to school… a lot of it
Friends and family please note: No, I have not joined a cult. I know this beautiful state and God talk is not something that you are accustomed to coming from me. All I can tell you is to get used to it quickly…
No stock photos this time. The photo at the top of this post is my Date with Destiny poster. It’s the one that you put together right before integration day and it’s what I’ll be looking at everyday this year to ensure that I never lose my way.
So, what am I committing to for 2016? I’ve been pondering that question since arriving in Mexico. We all do our boards in the beautiful peak state but now that I’ve “returned” what am I really going to do? For me, I’ve decided to commit to my poster. What better than something that I created when assuming the best life possible for me? Since you likely can’t read them the poster, and assuming that for some weird reason you’re still reading this, here’s my 2016 in advance:
1. Be more grateful – This is one that I think everyone should strive for. 4-6 times per day, I ask and answer “How can I be even more grateful, right now?” You’re always asking questions throughout the day. It’s how you evaluate every situations. Gratitude is the lens that I’ll be looking through in 2016.
2. Be more present – Are you present and in the moment? I’m not. I try but often I find myself reflecting on the past or planning for the future. My 2016 is planned out. All that is left is to stay present and enjoy the journey.
3. Be more resolute – Rocky said it best when he told his son it’s all about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. (something like that) My goal for being more resolute is simply to get up one more time than I am knocked down.
4. Be more curious – I’m totally stealing this one from Tony Robbins. Often when I evaluate a situation I like to look for the worst case then move on to other scenarios. In 2016 and forever after, when an unexpected event comes knocking I choose to ask “Hmm, isn’t this fascinating? What else could this mean?”
5. Lower my bodyfat by 10% – I’ve made considerable progress on my health over the past few years. But 2016 is the year that I kick it into overdrive. Lowering my bodyfat my 10% is no easy day in the gym. To support this, as much as it pains me to say it, I’m saying goodbye to CrossFit and hello to Bill Pearl’s 20 Months to a Champion Physique program. I’ve attempted this program before but I’ve only made it to month 4. My then, I’m loving my body’s response and normally figure it’s ok to skip some workouts… and that is not a good pattern to get into. So this year, it’s healthy eats with Nutrition Smart providing meals, 6+ hours of sleep every night, and Bill Pearl’s program. Now the only decision left to make is before/after photos or not.
6. Accepted into LECOM – Lake Erie College of Osteopathic Medicine. That’s where I want to go. That’s where I will go. Specifically I want to attend the Bradenton campus. I start back to school at the University of South Florida on Jan 11th. Before the end of the year, I will be accepted into LECOM’s DO program or into the Post Bacc program up in Erie.
7. Stay open to relationships – Just when I thought I was out…. I went to DwD happy to not be in a relationship and not wanting to find one anytime soon. After all, I’ve got medical school on the horizon. Who want’s to stick with someone through all of that?!! Thanks to my buddy, a few old friends, and one specific new one, I’m committing to staying open to relationships. I’m not going to go out seeking it, but if I find my heart really wanting someone, I’m going after her.
8. Pay off consumer debt – Let’s face it, debt sucks. So this year which will likely be my last year with an income for the next 5-6 years I want to pay off all of my consumer debt. I definitely don’t want to be adding the cost of medical school to it that’s for sure.
9. Create an online course – I still feel like I need to contribute something more for the life that I’m leaving behind. I believe the best way to do this will be through creating an online course to share what I’ve learned. If I can’t think of anything better, it will likely be a 6 week course showing how I invest. Finishing 2015 over 20%, I think others might be a little interested in just how I’m doing it.
10. Qualify The Stuber Foundation as a 501(c)(3) – Over the past 12 months The Foundation has provided care services for 1 family. At a personal cost to me of about $12,000. Unfortunately, the day after Thanksgiving this year, I had to look this family in the eye and tell them that I would not be able to renew services for the coming year. This will likely mean that the recipient will soon find herself in an advanced care wing of a nursing home. My hope is that if I can qualify as a 501(c)(3) then I will be able to raise some money tax free to get The Foundation up and running providing services for those that need it the most.
Ok so that’s what my 2016 will look like. Have you given any thought to yours? How will you hold yourself accountable? What leverage will you get on yourself to compel forward movement?
Thanks for reading and until next time!